how to deal with feelings? 感情とどう向きあう?

02/22/2019 being myself

how to deal with feelings?

fear, sadness, loneliness, jealousy…

feelings that stays in your mind and wouldn’t stop bothering you? harder you try to stop it, stronger it grows… do you have those?

i do. i have some feelings stuck in my mind for long time.

how to deal with them?

first, i just look at it. to realize that there is that feeling inside me.

and detach myself from that feeling.

not blaming myself, not forcing to stop it, not being sympathized too much, not criticizing it nor analyzing it.

i allow them to stay there, as long as they want.

and just watch it.

i have some of them for years, and some just had disappeared.

i am what i am, and the feeling is feeling.

don’t hold it up, just let it be.

 

感情とどう向きあう?

怖さ、悲しみ、寂しさ、嫉妬…

繰り返し思い浮かんでしまう考え。やめたいのにやめられない。執着してしまう。そんな時ありませんか?

わたしはあります。ある感情をずっと抱えてます。

どうするか?

わたしはまずその感情を見つめて、そこにあるんだな、こういう感情がわたしの中にいまあるんだなと認識する。

わたしと感情を分ける。

責めない、無理に止めようとしない、同調しない、批判や分析もしない。

いつまでもいていいよ、と許可を出す。

そうしてただ観察します。

長年持っているものもあります。そのうちに消えてしまった感情もあります。

わたしはわたし、感情は感情。

溜めないで感じきってしまいましょう。

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